Your girlfriend says she needs to find herself: what this means to you
Your girlfriend says she needs to find herself. That’s one of those baffling things women say that men can’t fully understand. Does it mean that you are just taking a step back in the relationship so that you can focus on your own needs? Is it a sign that she is so in love with you that she feels like she is losing her own identity or is it something else? Unfortunately, when a woman says that she needs to find herself, it means that she is being nice by telling you that she is no longer happy or that she no longer feels fulfilled in her relationship with you. If your girlfriend tells you that she needs some time or space to figure things out, you should fight if you have any hope of saving your relationship.
When your girlfriend says that she needs to find herself, you should take that statement very seriously. If you tell her that you are being silly or overly dramatic, it will damage your connection with her in a very long and lasting way. She will feel that her voice is not being heard and will resent you for not understanding her needs. In turn, her desire to find herself will lead to an eventual breakup and whatever future she may have been planning will never happen.
Being considerate and compassionate during this time will go a long way in helping her feel closer to you again. If you tell him that you understand that you need to find yourself, you will probably be pleasantly surprised by that. You will feel respected and valued as a woman and as a couple. She will see you as someone who really wants the best for her, even if it doesn’t seem like the best for you.
Encourage her to explore her life on her own for a while. Don’t bring up the idea of a breakup at all. Let him set the pace for how much time he needs and how he uses that time. Stay in touch with her as the two of you explore your lives separately. Ask him questions about how he is doing and what is going on in his life. Invest in those conversations and be interested in what she feels.
If you show your girlfriend that you can be a strong and supportive friend through this process, she will feel closer to you. In many cases, a woman seeks to find herself when she feels abandoned by her man. If you work to be a better partner by being more caring and considerate of her, she will reconsider her decision to find herself. He may find that he is at his best when he is with you.
