Is your girlfriend testing you to see if you try to win her back?
There are many reasons why girlfriends leave their boyfriends. In most situations, the woman clearly wants to put an end to things that are not up to her expectations. Sometimes, however, there is a slightly devious reason for breaking up. I’m talking about a test of her commitment to her relationship. If this is the case, I’ll show you how to make sure your girlfriend is only testing you, and more importantly, how to pass that test.
When I say “prove,” I’m specifically referring to the dramatic way a woman tells her boyfriend that he better increase his commitment level. If your girlfriend is testing you to see if you’ll try to win her back, she’s worried about one thing: marriage. Before you propose just to win her girlfriend back, let’s make sure she’s really testing it and look at some easier ways to win her back without proposing.
When evaluating whether a breakup is really an attempt to test your commitment, there are three questions you need to answer.
You must first consider how long you have been in the relationship. Next, you need to consider the age of your girlfriend. Finally, you should look at the marital status of his closest friends and family.
Let’s look at a typical example. If a couple has been together for a few years and they are both in their 20s and 30s, then it is highly likely that they broke up simply to test their boyfriend’s commitment.
Considering the first two factors with the third regarding your friends and family could have an effect. If she’s a career woman with divorced parents and no happily married friends, then she probably just genuinely left him. If that’s the case, you should try to win your ex girlfriend back differently than if she was just testing you.
If you’re in your late thirties and you’ve been together for more than a year, you may be testing yourself no matter what your family and friends are doing with their lives. A woman’s biological clock is ticking very fast at this point in her life and she can make her do some pretty crazy things, like breaking up with a boyfriend for no apparent reason.
Let’s say your girlfriend fits the profile of a relationship tester. How do you get it back?
That’s pretty straightforward. Just give him what he wants. I don’t mean running to your house, getting on your knees, and yelling a marriage proposal from the sidewalk. Sit down and calmly confront your intentions to separate. Talking about a future together as a married couple, even with children, positively. If you cringed every time he brings it up because you simply can’t afford a marriage right now, he may be mistaking your attitude on the subject.
If you’re waiting for a special time to propose, you can reassure her about your level of commitment by looking for a bigger house to start a family. Then grab a calendar, pen, and paper, and come up with a budget that sets it up well enough to happen at a future date you can both live with. Sometimes you just need to show her that you’re thinking about a future together and her reasons for breaking up with you will fade quickly.
