How to get your ex girlfriend back
Being abandoned is a terrible feeling. You start to question everything. You lose all your confidence in yourself, leaving yourself a broken and bitter man. You stop eating, you can’t sleep and you don’t even want to think about other women because that one you had was The One and no one is ever going to be as good as her.
So you try to get it back. You buy her flowers, try to take her to dinner, you crawl around and tell her that you can change and that you can make this work. That you are willing to do what she wants. That you are there for her, that you love her, that nothing is worth without her.
These are all mistakes.
The only way to get it back is, oddly enough, not to make it look like you want to get it back. Forgetting about her. Just living your life. In this article, I’m going to go over a list of ways to get it back.
1. Stop communicating with her
This means no more Facebook, text messages, tweets, phone calls … none of that. You need me to leave you alone. You need time for yourself. She is the one who left you, after all. She is the one who “turned the key”, as Costanza would say, and finished it. So get her out of your life. Show him how easy it will be to pick up the pieces and go from there. Because you are strong, tough and have your own life.
2. Get back in shape
In many cases, if you are in a long-term relationship, you may have gotten a little carried away. This is common and is also the part that needs to be repaired right away. If you’re a little overweight, it’s time to lose that guy, get on the treadmill, and start eating healthy again. Or, if you’re like me and have a terrible stomach and can’t eat when you’re going through emotional turmoil like a breakup, then you have to gain a little healthy weight to not look like an anorexic rockemo guy.
3. Pay some money to make yourself look good
After exercising and getting back in shape, go out to the store and buy some nice new clothes. Spend some money on a new and better haircut. These are all ways to build his confidence, to get him to talk to girls again, which will put him on a relentless course of collision with self-esteem.
The key to remembering in all of this is not that you are doing it to impress her. You are doing this to impress yourself. You are doing this because you want to have the most successful and enjoyable life you can have. And hey, if she wants to accompany her, more power to her. But you’ll be fine without it.
The main thing is that you want to instill three feelings in him when he realizes how well you are doing. You want her to feel:
1. Jealous
That other girls have a chance with you, an amazing guy. She could lose you. You are no longer under their control.
2. Nostalgia
For a moment when things were going well between the two of you. At first, he will only remember how terrible the last months or weeks were, when he decided to break up with you. But there was a good moment somewhere, a moment that she will remember and that will make her want to be with you again.
3. Sexual feelings
You’ll want to get this out of her too. How? Well my video on how to make fun of her has a few ways to flirt and get those feelings out of her:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zvrt98DUtQA
Do this and she will be crying out to be with you again in no time.
